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My grandmother once said that you really haven’t learned much about life until you reach the age of 40. I was about 18, 19, 20 years old when I heard her say this. At the time turning 40 was a thought that had yet to be conceived in my mind. A thought that was at least 20 years away. But now all the famous 1980’s babies are here at this crossroad, and some of us don’t know what to do with ourselves.

Many of us moved really fast after graduating college or starting our careers after high school. Some even started a family. With that being said, your friends have grown children, that are turning 20 years old and you may be that friend that at 40, you are still trying to figure out if you want kids and this is ok, because we are truly grown and it is up to us to decide how we want to live our life. Please don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.

But wait, before we talk about kids, let’s talk about marriage? At 40 do you still want to get married? Don’t get me wrong, getting married at 40 is still a viable option. However, many of us have learned to live happiest by ourselves. In fact many of us have fell in love with being single. We have fell in love with coming home after a long day of work and going straight to sleep, because that is how tired we are. We have fell in love with only having to worry about what am I having for dinner, oppose to what we are having for dinner?

Both scenarios are interesting, because many people find themselves thinking the grass is greener on the other side. However, I truly believe that the universe gives everyone what they truly need, and if having a family or a child was in your cards, you would have a family or a child. No need to go looking for something, it will come to you.

Back in the day, there were so many things that I aspired to become and so many things that I aspired to have, to the point where I never stopped to smell the roses. It was one adventure after the next, without being truly satisfied for what I had already accomplished, I was off to the next.

I am so happy those days are over. I was just applying to much pressure on myself. So now that being 40 is just a couple of weeks away I realized that I was just a kid trying to figure the world out. I truly didn’t know what I was doing, I was just doing what I felt in my heart.

However, I can say that taking chances early on in life is currently helping me to navigate my current world. Thus, when you are younger, you may see or feel something, but you are not sure of what you are feeling or seeing. But at 40, when those same things arrive again, you know what it is. No need to question it.

Therefore, to all my 40-tians, go about life and be happy. You are right where you are suppose to be. Your past experiences will help you now, your confusion about life should be at an all time low.

Be happy, you are still alive.

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