On Being 40

My grandmother once said that you really haven’t learned much about life until you reach the age of 40. I was about 18, 19, 20 years old when I heard her say this. At the time turning 40 was a thought that had yet to be conceived in my mind. A thought that was at least 20 years away. But now all the famous 1980’s babies are here at this crossroad, and some of us don’t know what to do with ourselves.

Many of us moved really fast after graduating college or starting our careers after high school. Some even started a family. With that being said, your friends have grown children, that are turning 20 years old and you may be that friend that at 40, you are still trying to figure out if you want kids and this is ok, because we are truly grown and it is up to us to decide how we want to live our life. Please don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.

But wait, before we talk about kids, let’s talk about marriage? At 40 do you still want to get married? Don’t get me wrong, getting married at 40 is still a viable option. However, many of us have learned to live happiest by ourselves. In fact many of us have fell in love with being single. We have fell in love with coming home after a long day of work and going straight to sleep, because that is how tired we are. We have fell in love with only having to worry about what am I having for dinner, oppose to what we are having for dinner?